Diaries of a Beautiful Woman #6 — Godly Woman

Spirituality

Have you noticed that people who are evolving, working on themselves and creating their spiritual presence, are of a different kind. They are somehow magnetic, like stars, maybe, celebrities, I mean. They have that presence that can’t be ignored. You’re just drawn to them, and want more of them. To talk to them, to be in their orbit, to soak in their energy. There’s something special about them. Both men and women.

It’s like sports. Every person who does sports professionally is automatically attractive. I don’t know how it works, but for some reason health translates beauty. Sport makes everyone attractive, just like fresh air or sauna. Spiritual search and work likewise makes everyone attractive.

Therefore I took one article featuring main character traits of a Godly woman. So, let’s have a look at them.

In the book of Provers, Old Testament, where King Solomon writes to his son about political leadership, he mentions the importance of choosing a chayil — excellent (elite, noble, valiant) wife. Excellent — meaning setting a higher standard, an example for the other women in the nation. The main character traits mentioned by King Solomon include:

A. She is industrious.

The wise woman builds her house, but the foolish tears it down with her own hands (Provers 14:1).

She looks for wool and flax and works with her hands in delight. She is like merchant ships; she brings her food from afar. She rises also while it is still night and gives food to her household and portions to her maidens. She considers a field and buys it; from her earnings she plants a vineyard. She girds herself with strength and makes her arms strong. She senses that her gain is good; her lamp does not go out at night. (Proverbs 31:13–18).

She makes linen garments and sells them, and supplies belts to the tradesmen. Strength and dignity are her clothing, and she smiles at the future (Proverbs 31:24–25).

She looks well to the ways of her household, and does not eat the bread of idleness (Proverbs 31:27).

Therefore, she’s not lazy. As the author suggests, «the woman of Proverbs is capable, physically able, business smart, and prosperous.» A godly woman does energetic deeds, labor, work for the home (Genesis 2:18, 1 Timothy 2:11–15).

B. She is prudent.

House and wealth are an inheritance from fathers, but a prudent wife is from the Lord (Proverbs 19:14).

Prudence (sakal) means «wisdom shown in the exercise of reason, forethought, and self-control». Qualities conferred from our Heavenly Father, she is deemed a gift from the Lord.

C. She is wise and understanding.

By wisdom a house is built, and by understanding it is established; and by knowledge the rooms are filled with all precious and pleasant riches (Proverbs 24:3–4).

The Bible says the primary role of the wife in marriage is to build and establish the family/home while the husband works outside as the breadwinner. They are coequals in the sight of God but have different roles assigned to them by Him in the marriage…Whereas both husband and wife are of similar value before God and society, they function in different capacities, teaming to build the kingdom, their country, their marriage, and the next generation. A symbiosis of husband and wife is necessary, indeed demanded, in order to achieve all of these roles. A godly woman is wise, understanding of her role, and knowledgeable of God’s blueprint and design. God made marriages and families to function in these ways in order to be most effective as the foundation of society.

To attempt in any way to change this basic biblical construct of marriage — and how He designed it to be best function — is to interfere with the inherent foundation of a nation.

Accordingly, in the context of the thesis of Proverbs, Solomon is saying to Rehoboam, to you, to me, and ate our nation that a wise man will marry a wise woman who has her high calling, role, and function in marriage settled in her mind. Solomon was saying, «Rehoboam, marry a woman who is knowledgeable, wise and understanding of this role.»

D. She is compassionate.

She stretches out her hands to the distaff, and her hands grasp the spindle. She extends her hand to the poor, and she stretches out her hands to the needy (Proverbs 31:19–20).

A godly woman is selfless. Not only does she prioritize care for her husband and children, not only is she knowledgeable, wise, and understanding of God’s specific call on her life, but she invests far more time cognizant of those God-ordained purposes than «playing», or being self-absorbed in trivial events so prevalent in our society today. For her, it’s not about «me». In fact and in contrast, she is compassionate for those around her as illustrated by her care for the poor and needy. She flatly rejects the narcissism of her culture and considers others as more important (Philippians 2:3). In giving her life for others, she finds it (Matthew 10:39), and her husband calls her blessed (Proverbs 31:30).

E. She is classy.

She is not afraid of the snow for her household, for all her household are clothed with scarlet. She makes coverings for herself; her clothing is fine linen and purple (Proverbs 31:21–22).

This passage reflects the outwardly manifestations of a godly woman’s heart. A godly woman does not dress in public in ways ungodly, suggestive, slovenly, or slipshod. Her outer adornment reflects her inner demeanor.

Her appearance and dress reflect internal decorum, discipline, and dignity, meaning she gives thought and care for the occasion and with a view of her husband’s position. She’s not distractive nor does she fight for the limelight.

Because she is habitually and characteristically industrious, wise, understanding, giving, and a good steward of their resources, fine clothing is affordable and an appropriate priority. Such sensitivities telegraph the evidence of God’s blessing and grace bestowed as a reward for faithfulness, selflessness and the care of others who are less fortunate. She has class.

F. She is kind.

She opens her mouth in wisdom, and the teaching of kindness is on her tongue (Proverbs 31:26).

Kindness (keyed) is a rich Hebrew word denoting deeds of devotion, favor, and loveliness. The word carries the OT idea of the NT word love (agapao), meaning «unchanging, unconditional graciousness». This woman’s speech is flavored with tenderness and mercy; others enjoy talking to her for endless hours! She’s not rigid and legalistic nor is her speech chock-full of self-centered comments, harsh or gossipy; rather, she’s kind and gracious, easy and genuine. As a result, she is a pleasure to be around.

G. She is trustworthy.

The heart of her husband trusts in her, and he will have no lack of gain. She does him good and not evil all the days of her life (Proverbs 31:11–12).

This passage aptly summarizes what a man should look for in a wife and what a woman who desires to be married should strive to become. Here is a woman who will attract respect in her own right as well as complement her husband’s path; she will not detract, but substantively foster a blessed marriage all the days of her life.

H. She is valuable.

He who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the Lord (Proverbs 18:22).

Her husband is known in the gates, when he sits among the elders of the land (Proverbs 31:23).

A wife with the aforementioned qualities (great, godly, supportive woman) makes for a most valuable teammate who enables the maximization of her husband’s abilities.

An excellent wife, who can find? For her worth is far above jewels (Proverb 31:10).

An excellent wife is the crown of her husband, but she who shames him is like rottenness in his bones (Proverbs 12:4).

I. She is fruitful.

Give her the product of her hands, and let her work praise hr in the gates (Proverbs 31:31).

Once a man has learned the characteristic of a great wife, found that woman, and married her, he had better not take her for granted! Lavish the excellent woman with love and give her more of everything desired; don’t be stingy. In addition, this Proverb teaches that good husbands foster, not stymie, their wife’s talents and abilities. Help your wife to be all that she can be! A husband should never stop doing what he agreed to do when he married. Men: continually over-deliver throughout your marriage!

J. She is praiseworthy.

Her children rise up and bless her; her husband also, and he praises her, saying: «Many daughters have done nobly, but you excel them all» (Proverbs 31:28–29).

Make sure this is the «speak» in your home as it pertains to the godly wife, and that the husband is reinforcing that this is the way the kids address their mother.

A gracious woman attains honor, and ruthless men attain riches (Proverbs 11:16).

He who finds a [good] wife finds a good thing!

When it comes to the future of our country, women are by far more important than men. Why? Because God gives them the primary charge and responsibility to foster and form the character of the next generation of and for a nation! (1 Timothy 2:15). The future of any and all nations is largely determined by women, more so than men. Apart from their nurturing and embedding character in their children’s he bestowal of a godly model and heritage, there will be no tomorrow for any nation.

Governments largely run on the character of men, but governments do not form the character of men — women do!

Therefore, a godly woman who invests in her family benefits not only her husband and her children, but society as well.

To summarize the above mentioned virtues, a godly woman is: a) industrious; b) prudent; c) wise and understanding; d) compassionate; e) classy; f) kind; g) trustworthy; h) valuable; i) fruitful; j) praiseworthy.

Of all the listed the ones to work on are: industrious, classy, trustworthy, valuable, fruitful, and praiseworthy.

So, how would I interpret an industrious woman?

- having a business or craft of her own, her social surrounding and role, individuality and style.

Classy woman?

- stylish, gorgeous, knowing her worth, brave and bold, experimenting. Looking good and expensive, though simple.

Trustworthy woman?

- your best friend, your — meaning her man’s best friend and secret keeper. Someone to rely on, very supportive and caring.

Valuable woman?

- knowing her worth and carrying herself like a queen.

Fruitful woman?

- everything she touches her hand to — prospers. Of high and pure energy. Full of life.

Praiseworthy woman?

- one of a kind, beautiful in her uniqueness, special and always working on herself.

So, here we go. The work field is big. But that what makes it fun and interesting.